Welcome to Elust 201
Cover image courtesy of Claire Rietveld.
Beautiful cover image. A sheer blouse with no bra is sexy AF.
Product Reviews
Lushense, Penis Extenders: The Complete Guide to Types, Benefits and the Best Brands in 2026
The evolution of penis extenders.
Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish
Carrie Young, Spanking 101: A Beginner’s Guide to Spanking & Impact Play
Learning how different implements and techniques feel is much more important than simply seeing how hard you can hit!
Sex Toy DB, QUTOYS Dongkinger Replica Dildo Review: That’s a Lot of Dong
One for people who consider “too big” a challenge rather than a warning.
Sex Work
Hellga, Fingerbang
A good fingerbang is an art form.
Sandra, My New PortaLite Massage Table
My own contribution this month. I finally treated myself to a new PortaLite massage table, and having one designed to comfortably support two people opens up some enjoyable possibilities!
Sex Worker Search, Courtesan Finder Interview
It’s interesting to hear directly from the people building a new escort directory about privacy, verification and the realities of running a platform for sex workers. These decisions matter enormously when we’re trusting websites with information about ourselves.
Mx Valentina, The dominatrix as life coach
I can see why there can be an unexpected overlap between domination and life coaching. A good Dominatrix has to understand what motivates someone, where their boundaries lie and when they need encouragement, challenge or discipline.
Milady, Atsuko Kudo Latex Catsuit
A custom-made latex catsuit is already rather fabulous, but adding a crotch zip makes it considerably more practical for the sort of mischief she has in mind.
Teena Laurent, Six Hours with a Nerd
Six hours sounds like a long date until you meet someone you can genuinely talk to. I enjoyed Teena’s description of an encounter where curiosity and conversation became such an important part of the attraction.
Yufi Saurus, Staying true to yourself even when you are a total weirdo
Embrace weirdness! Trying to make yourself bland enough for everyone to approve of you sounds exhausting, and the unusual parts are often the bits other people find most appealing anyway.
Lyra Bergman, What does “independent escort” mean? And why book independent escorts?
This explains an important distinction that clients don’t always understand. Booking an independent means you’re dealing directly with the person you’re actually going to meet, from that first enquiry through to deciding what sort of date you would both enjoy.
Sierra Sorren, The Lost Art of Lingering
There is something luxurious about having enough time together that nobody is watching the clock. Dinner, another drink, conversation that wanders off in unexpected directions… lingering can be part of the pleasure rather than time wasted before the main event.
Valerie Valtesse, On limerence & limoncello
Professional intimacy can create some complicated emotions, particularly when an encounter begins to feel more like an ordinary romantic date. Valerie writes thoughtfully about that strange territory where affection, fantasy and professional boundaries start overlapping.
Oz Bigdownunder, A Duo with Mistress Jessica and Mr and Mrs Habibi
There are quite a few moving parts when four people come together for an evening like this! What struck me was how much communication went into making the fantasy work while still allowing everyone to respond naturally as things developed.
Erotic Fiction
Simone Francis, Total Submission to the Riding Crop
There is something delicious about the anticipation created by a riding crop before it even touches skin. This captures that mixture of nerves, excitement and surrender very nicely.
Erotic Non Fiction
Raffaello Palandri, The Erotic Threshold: Tantra, Sapiosexuality, and the Intelligence of Almost
An interesting exploration of how desire can live in anticipation and possibility rather than simply reaching a destination. Sometimes what hasn’t quite happened yet can be considerably more erotic than what has.
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Morgan Destera, Sex Toys – Anal Beads
A refreshingly straightforward guide to anal beads. Plenty of lubricant, take your time and remember that getting them out is supposed to be pleasurable too. Sensible advice!
Femina Viva, Musings on Life, Work, Hypocrisy and the Toxic Sisterhood
This is a passionate piece about what solidarity actually means when supporting someone carries a social cost. It’s easy to talk about sisterhood in principle; much harder when loyalties, disagreements and personal consequences become involved.
Product Reviews
Liz Black X, Is This The Ultimate Heavy Duty Sleeve? QUTOYS Hole-y Cow Masturbator Review
This thing looks absolutely substantial! I enjoyed Liz putting it properly through its paces rather than treating “heavy duty” as merely something impressive to put on the packaging.
Books and Movies
The History of BDSM, Le jeu avec le feu (Playing with Fire)(1975): The Celluloid Dungeon
It’s fascinating how differently an erotic film can read decades later. The discussion of who appears to be participating in the joke, and who becomes its object, makes this much more interesting than a simple look back at some vintage kink.